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for couples, marriages and relationships
Identify Primary Conflicts
The first stage of therapy involves identifying the core conflicts of the relationship and how each partner is contributing.
Communicate Core Needs
Middle stage of therapy involves identifying and expressing core needs that may not be getting met.
Repair after Conflict
Last stage of therapy involves learning how to reestablish love, safety, trust, and communication.
"The quality of our relationships determine the quality of our lives."
-Esther Perel
Emotion Focused Therapy
An emotion focused therapy for couples (EFT-c) approach addresses conflict at its emotional root. It identifies each partner’s core emotional wounds and attachment style and teaches couples how to help each other rather than get caught in unproductive conflict. This approach work well for couples who love each other but find themselves caught in never-ending fights or unable to feel safe, seen, heard, and understood in the relationship. EFT-c helps couples gain insight into their emotional patterns and then enact new, more positive ways of communicating that restore safety, love, and trust in the relationship.
Intensive couples therapy is a two-week program designed to stabilize a relationship in crisis (a relationship at the edge of separating or unbearably painful). With a combination of couples and individual sessions, intensive therapy helps couples get to the root of what is happening and develop the tools and skills to navigate their core relational conflicts. Six months of therapy are condensed into two weeks allowing couples to make quick and lasting progress. Instead of going through the long process of traditional therapy, this intensive allows couples to get a full course of therapy quickly in order to have more time to live without fighting.
This couples intensive can be done online or in-person and consists of two weeks of intensive couples therapy with concurrent individual sessions to process and speed up the couples work. It is a deep dive into your relationship dynamics – the good, bad, and ugly. Participants often report breakthroughs in their ability to communicate, self-growth, empowerment, and more connection.
$4,760
Consists of:
- 8 x 90 minute couples sessions
- 12 x 50 minute individual sessions (6 per person)
- Coordinated and intensive treatment. Participants report getting the benefits of 6 months of therapy in two weeks.
Ongoing couples therapy typically consists of weekly sessions to address disruptions in communication and unresolved conflict. The goal is typically to return the relationship to being a source of connection, safety, and job by improving communication, addressing unresolved ruptures, and teaching skills to allow ongoing connection. Couples utilize therapy to address areas of conflict such as money, sex, lack of closeness, empty nest, affairs, parenting issues and more..
$250 50 minute session
$325 80 minute session
Consists of:
- 1-3 couples sessions per week
"Fears and expectations that date back to earlier experiences of dependency, but that didn't arise during courtship or dating, are activated as commitment to the relationship increases. As a result, partners start to anticipate the worst, not the best from their relationship."
-Stan Tatkin
Rudy Ruderman, LMFT
Rudy is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist practicing in Santa Barbara, California. He is the founder/director of the ‘Center for Psychotherapy and Integrative Health’ which is a psychotherapy clinic that trains associate clinicians and provides depth-oriented psychotherapy to California residents. Rudy received his master’s in counseling psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute. He has undergone additional training in group dynamics, E.M.D.R. (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing), and E.F.T.-C (emotion focused therapy for couples). Rudy has extensive clinical experience ranging from working in inpatient psychiatric hospitals, county crisis intervention, and community mental health clinics. He now works in private practice providing psychotherapy, group therapy, couples therapy, and coaching. In private practice, he has successfully helped people and couples find increased well-being in their relationships and in their life.
Contact US
(805) 312-8078
To get started reach out for a free 30 minute consultation. Therapy is a big investment of time, energy, and money. A consultation gives us the opportunity to assess whether you will get the returns you want (a happier and more fulfilling relationship).